As a 23 year old, I can say so far the twenties can be so fun but also very uncertain. I want to live it up but also save money. I want to live in the present but I also worry about the future. I’m considered an adult but I realize how ghetto adulting is.
There’s so much pressure to know what we want to do, to have shit figured out. But we’re young adults barely learning about ourselves. So cut yourself some slack. You might not be where you want to be, but our lives are just beginning. It’s all part of the journey.
This post is all about enjoying your twenties
God bless these twenty somethings
SZA
Relax. We have time. Be goal oriented but also don’t spend all your time hustling. Try to have a balance of fun and work. Make sure you’re experiencing things and seeing what the world has to offer (how you do so is unique to you). Don’t get stuck on autopilot because we won’t ever get this time back.
Trust that everything is working out in your favor. That at the right time, your goals will be achieved. As long as you continue to work toward your goals, the only way is up. Don’t worry about when, just believe that it will happen. I know it’s easier said than done to truly believe your goals will be reached, but you can allow yourself to be a little delusional. You get to choose how you perceive things, so why not be optimistic?
The journey is the destination.
This is the time to try new things, learn to be alone, and take risks. Ask any one older than their 30’s and they will say that your life is just beginning. We don’t see it because this is the oldest we’ve been and adulting can be scary, but all those people can’t be lying. It’s normal to have those thoughts of anxiety, but if you live in the present all you gotta worry about is what you can do to make a difference today. Think of how much your life changes in one year. You can have a plan and a situation can change it in a split second. So there’s no point in stressing about the future. What you’re stressing about now may not even be an issue in a year.
I genuinely believe that if you continue to strive for more, stay open to new opportunities and learn more about yourself that eventually, things will just unfold without you actively trying. There’s no way to predict how you will find your passion. Just keep living your life. Try to be your authentic self, UNAPOLOGETICALLY. We’re young. We’ll get there. Our confidence will grow, we’ll learn more about ourselves and what we want out of life.
Be okay with failing
Try new things. Take risks. And be okay with the possibility that it won’t work out or you won’t be good at it right away. You can pick up a hobby just for the fuck of it. This is the time to try anything that interests you. This is what your twenties are about.
I say all of this as a message to myself. I am not always confident. I overthink the littlest things. I can be a people-pleaser. At times I’m confident and social, and at times I’m reserved and anxious. I worry about the future and how I’m going to get there. Life isn’t about being confident and happy all the time. It’s about being able to healthily cope and navigate those moments of anxiety, insecurity, anger and sadness.
*It’s okay to not know what you want to do in life*
I know it’s a scary feeling to not have clarity on what you want to do with your life. Anything uncertain and out of our control is scary. So embrace it and turn that fear into excitement. Excitement for the endless possibilities. Excitement for the direction your life can take if you decide to take up a hobby, a class or work in a completely different field. We think we know what we like, but if we’ve never tried something, how would we know? Worrying isn’t going to do you any good so might as well replace that anxious energy with exploration. Explore all the different things you’ve been wanting to try out. Start up that business or service. This is the time to follow your dreams. You don’t want to wonder “what if”. I much rather try and fail now then never try at all.
You will be just fine. If no one has said it, I’m proud of you. The fact that you’re here on this Earth is something to celebrate. Enjoy life. Learn more about yourself. Take risks. Make mistakes. Have fun in your twenties.
This post was all about embracing these uncertain twenties