One thing I would like to work on is trusting myself and strengthening my intuition. I’ve realized I betray myself often in little ways.
This post is all about how you can strengthen your intuition and self trust.
Sometimes I say yes when I want to say no. I make decisions to please others. I brush off red flags. I don’t always stick to promises I make myself. I want to stop these patterns
I’m not perfect and I remind myself to not beat myself up, but these behaviors aren’t serving me. So, to strengthen my self trust I’m going to try some things. If any of this sounds like you, maybe this post will help you out.
Intuition
Intuition is defined as (by Google) as an immediate understanding without conscious reasoning. It’s those moments where you just “know”. You’re certain how you feel about it but you can’t necessarily explain why you have this judgement. Our intuition can be stronger in certain situations more than others. One may have good intuition about people friend-wise, but when it comes to relationships they ignore their intuition without realizing it. This post shall help you tap into your intuition from within.
Stick to your word
I want to show myself that I can keep my word. That if I say something, I will actually do it. If I don’t stick to my word then I need to hold myself accountable. For example; if I say I’m going to get back into the gym yet I haven’t even gotten a gym membership, I will hold myself accountable by not making plans one weekend day and going to the gym.
If we’re constantly all talk and never actually taking action, how do we expect others to believe our word when we lowkey don’t believe it ourselves? By keeping little promises to ourselves or stating that we’re going to do something and following through we show ourselves we can be trusted. We show our inner child that we are reliable. Just as we want a friend/partner to be a person of their word, we should hold ourselves to that same standard. Yes, we’re human and we won’t always stick to our word but it’s the actual effort of changing that matters.
Practice Self-Discipline
Simply put, self-discipline is following through with a commitment even when you don’t want to. It’s pushing yourself to be consistent despite obstacles. This is another way to show yourself that you are reliable and a person of action. You will grow the assurance that you are capable. You will be able to listen to your intuition when you trust yourself. What is a healthy practice you’ve been wanting to be consistent with? Challenge yourself and your future self will thank you. Remind yourself that you’re doing it for yourself and overall wellbeing, don’t give up.
Setting Boundaries and Sticking to Them
This has been an ongoing thing I have been working on. When you’ve never been modeled and taught healthy relationships, it’s hard to stick to your boundaries. There’s that subconscious desire to be chosen and loved. We give them the benefit of the doubt because we don’t want to believe that they don’t really care about us that much.
Say “No” more often
So now, I’m really prioritizing setting boundaries and sticking to them. Even if it makes me feel uncomfortable and guilty. I have to remind myself that if they love me, they won’t take my boundaries as an insult. Last weekend I said no to my friend’s invites so I can catch up on chores and have a relaxing weekend. I honestly felt bad. I felt like my loved ones were bothered that I didn’t say yes even though I didn’t have established “plans”. Though it was a boundary I set for myself, I had to remind myself that my desire to stay home and get things done are just as valid.
Listen to the messages your body sends you
Many times our bodies send us messages through emotion and physical sensations but we ignore them. At times I have chosen to ignore my body’s messages and it didn’t do me good. The mind and body are not separate. They work together. And once we pay attention to our body we can strengthen our intuition. So when I am going to make a big decision, I will stop and listen to my body. When I am doing yoga I will pay attention to the areas that feel tight. When I go out to party, I will acknowledge any anxiety or discomfort.
With emotions, I am conflicted whether to give them meaning or just feel them and let them pass. Maybe it’s a combination of both. There are times where I feel like the emotions are purely hormonal and that is when I cry it out and not try to attach a story to them. But if I do feel like there is a reason for the emotions, then I validate my feelings and talk it out with myself. I try to remember to check where I am feeling the emotions in my body. If you can’t detect how or where you’re feeling them physically, it’s okay. Don’t force it, just acknowledge it and keep note of it. I think the more we pay attention to things the more we start to notice what we didn’t before.
Speak to your inner child
There is an inner child inside all of us, some more wounded than others. For those with childhood trauma, it’s very important to create a place of trust and safety for your inner child. Speak to your younger self, validate their pain. Mourn with them what y’all experienced. When you feel like you are triggered, speak to them and let them know they are safe with you. Write them a letter. Do activities you loved as a child. Show them you are reliable by sticking to your word and any promises you make to them. i.e. “I promise to never give up on our dreams.” “I promise to go to that place we’ve always wanted to go to.”
Let’s do this.
Building our self trust can help us make our own decisions, be confident, and remove ourselves from people/places that don’t serve us. Having strong self-trust and intuition can make us feel more sure of ourselves. So I’m professing it now, we will get to the point where we no longer question our intuition. We will have a strong sense of self where no person or situation can make us question ourselves. Let’s start the journey.
If you got this far, I appreciate you. Sometimes it feels like no one is reading but if you are, thank you so much. Have a great day/night <3