Having a quarter-life crisis in your twenties is an experience that soooo many people can relate to. But I still feel so alone and lost.
Though I have a couple of friends who are in the same boat, it’s still such an isolating feeling. It’s on ourselves to make an important decision that impacts our life. No one knows what’s best for us better than ourselves.
For those in their quarter life crisis, you’re not alone in your feelings of worry, embarrassment, and confusion.
Say goodbye to the old you
For the past few months I’ve come to the realization of how much I’ve changed. I have to say goodbye to the old version of myself that I still find myself clinging onto.
Since highschool I stuck with a career choice that I didn’t think I’d ever change. I knew I would change as a person but I didn’t think my values would. Now, I don’t want to work a 9-5 and have rediscovered my passion for the arts. I want to live my life with more freedom of time rather than a structured 5 day schedule.
It’s hard to grasp that you are not the person your highschool self thought you would be. It’s time to let go of a vision of a person your teenage self imagined. Shit happens. Things change. You have to move accordingly and start doing things your present self wants you to be.
What type of life do you desire?
Deciding on a career is where I’m stuck. I know the kind of life I want but finding a career/passion that allows me to do that has been a struggle.
I was listening to a Call Her Daddy podcast episode and the host had said how in her early twenties, she knew the life she wanted but didn’t know exactly how to get there. Yet, knowing that allowed her to end up in a career that allowed her to live the type of life she desired. It was comforting to hear that from a person who is now very successful.
So now I’m in this stage of transformation where there’s a lot of change. I’m quitting my job and trusting that better opportunities are on their way to me. I’m at the point where I just want more time to do things I enjoy and trust that in the meantime things will fall into place. I’m hoping that as I remain open and continue to do what I love that a job opportunity that aligns with me will come along.
I went from studying to have a job that dominates my life to just making money to afford moving out and my hobbies. I never thought that would be me.
Welp, here I am. And I’ve had to accept that.
Let go of the shame or embarrassment you might feel for being lost. There’s nothing wrong with still figuring things out and finding yourself. You’re not less than anyone for whatever job you have and how you’re living life.
Remain open to new opportunities
I am really excited for the new beginnings but there’s still that fear of not finding a job. I’m super blessed and privileged to live with my parents and know that I won’t be homeless if I don’t find a job. But my independent self really wants to have my own money.
Despite the challenge it’s been to go through this transformation, I wouldn’t go back to a 9-5. I’m not happy with my work situation so I’m changing it. I want a certain lifestyle so I’m working on it. Taking action no matter how small.
Letting go of things that are no longer serving me and putting my attention on what I desire. It’s scary but also exciting. I’m not going to settle for a job just for the sake of it, I’m going to find one that aligns with my desires.
I’m not going to force a decision. I trust that experiences will come my way that will give me clarity.
To those who are in a quarter life crisis, I know it’s uncomfortable and stressful but stay optimistic. Trust blindly that things will work out even if you have doubt. Choose to believe good things are coming. Worrying isn’t going to help your situation. Stay open to opportunities and explore your interests and passions. Don’t limit yourself. This is your life, you have the power to make it into whatever you want it to be.
Thank you for taking the time to read this and I hope you have a great day/night <3